Diamond Diamond Engagement Ring Side, anyone heard of a moissanite engagement ring?
Q.Moissanite is a stone that has recently been discovered. 9 out of 10 jewelers cannot tell the difference between a moissanite and a diamond, AND it is almost as hard as a diamond. Since I am very low on cash, I am thinking of buying an engagement ring with one 3/4carat moissanite with 2 small .20 carat diamonds on the side. Of course, after I give her the ring, I will explain that since she wants a big wedding I had to cut corners on the ring, but I will replace it with a diamond when we can afford to... Has anyone done this? Is this too tacky? (I am only trying to keep us from having a huge debt, since the wedding is costing me - us - so much...) And she knows I am having to borrow the money for everything...
A.I was in the same boat. Both of us were in college when we bought our rings and our budget was small. Through the jeweler we were able to see different sizes and clarity within our range. I just got a new diamond this year, 6 years after we were married as my mother's day and anniversary present. It was well worth the wait! By keeping the same ring and setting, we were able to afford a much larger and clearer stone. I went from .23 carat small flawed stone to a .61 beauty. I'm sure your fiancee will be willing to wait for a nicer diamond in order to have a big wedding now. Tell her this - she can always get a bigger diamond later but will you guys really ever get married again to have a big wedding? NO! The time for the big wedding would have to be now. I respect your opinion. I think many women probably agree that they wouldn't want a fake diamond. However, I don't think it's true that "Nobody" wants a fake. Some I think would say, "Hey, it looks just like a diamond; it's beautiful; and it was given in the spirit of love, so I like it." Maybe? However, I have not yet looked at a moissanite. If they look very fake to the naked eye, then I won't buy it. Also, if she doesn't like it, I'll take it back and replace it with a natural gemstone or a smaller, low-quality (low cost) diamond. At any rate, I will replace it when we have paid off the wedding and honeymoon and have some money to spend. Also, someone mentioned the fact of wearing a ring "every day of my life" that is a fake. Well, she is not going to wear it daily, only when going out. I don't think that many people are going to take a close look and examine it to see if it is a real diamond. However, you do make a good point. I would prefer to buy a real diamond. I just hate to spend $2000 or more, when - due to circumstances with our families - I am going to have to pay for the entire wedding, reception, honeymoon - everything - out of MY pocket. It's already going to cost me several thousand dollars, minimum, for the wedding, reception, and honeymoon. I don't resent that, it's just the reality of the situation, and I am trying to cut corners where I can. My fiancee has dreamed of a big wedding and a beautifu ring her whole life, so I want go give that to her, even if I have to go into debt for it - and she is aware of that, feels it's worth it. I think this has to do with girls being raised to put so much emphasis on the wedding day. Their rational judgement of the financial reality of it does not come into play, in many cases. I can't blame her for this - this is how she was raised. Immature? Maybe a little. But in other ways, surrounding other financial matters, she's more rational and understanding... I just think that where weddings and rings are concerned, many women are not very rational about it. For example, one friend of mine recently got married, and even though they only make around $50k a year, each, she felt that spending $15,000 of the inheritance he had recently gotten on a big wedding was justified. To me, that is just wasteful and crazy. They could have used it toward the house they just bought. Likewise, I'd rather keep the $5-7,000 I'm going to spend on all this, and use it toward a downpayment on a house at some point in the future. However, like I say, she feels it is IMPORTANT to have a nice ring and weddding. While I disagree, I do understand where she's coming from, and so will provide it, no matter the cost. She's worth it, and deserves it, since that's what she wants.
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